I am sure every single person think at least for a short about things to improve and learn in the New Year. I did too. I made my resolution for 2014 and hoped that I can actually really stick to these and next year see myself somewhere else. Because when you are not happy about something you have to do something about it and the best way is to set yourself a target you want to reach.
How do my resolutions go so far?
I thought is really useful to do a little feedback on my resolution earlier than in 12 months. So, here I write after 3 months of new year. I have to say that I am pleased about myself pushing some projects to start and I am even actively keeping them going. However, I think my efforts could have been even better. I noticed lately that I am somehow getting lazy or slower in taking actions and my determination is not so great anymore. Perhaps this is what happens with all your resolutions! We give it kick start and then somehow linger being pleased to have started but not putting anything more into it.
It is time to refresh resolutions!
I figured, that I need to work on brisk start of some actions again from the beginning. This time however it will be easier because I have already started. This should basically enable me to get one step ahead and get closer to my goal. Because guess what, I was looking through some pictures from 3 years ago and it reminded of my mind set at that time and basically it was similar or even same at some points like now. The problem is that nothing has changed that much like I was hoping it will in 3 years period of time.
It is time for action…
We need to work on ourselves constantly. We need to learn as much as our head allows us and we need to participate in as many activities as necessary. This is the development, this is getting closer to your goals and this means you have a lot of new skills that will push you further.
Oh, I forgot one of my biggest plans for this year is to do something good for my “aging” (huh) skin. I want to buy myself for a first time high quality anti-aging line and my favorite so far is Cindy Crawford’s Meaningful Beauty line. Anyone has got some experience with this one? I would appreciate some advice. 😉
Do not hesitate and keep yourself going no matter what. That is the life!
I am sure everyone has experienced some disappointment when it comes to relationships. As we grow up we experience first disappointment when we realize that our parents are not so perfect as we believed. We start to see things we haven’t before and we have to cope with that. Usually we lose trust in our parents and start to think that we will solve problems better on our own. But you know what’s funny? I have been living in this stage for at least 10 years and now I am starting to see things more from my parents’ perspective and I can actually understand their actions much better! It probably comes on its own with maturing and life experience. I can see on my little sister that she hasn’t reached that point yet and I already fear how my kids will look at me, when they will enter that stage of “I will be better than my parents” :D. Right now I think, I am still not ready for this from my kids (I do not have any yet), because I am still too fierce to take it so wisely and calmly as a parent.
Anyway, another disappointment comes with your first love or with some closer relationships. You trust one person above all and then one day things turn around completely and you find yourself wondering: “why?!!!! why I fought with people around me for telling me the truth about this person? They are right actually, he has been behaving bad to me since the beginning, I just couldn’t see it!”
But why is that happening? Normally we have well developed intuition or let’s say instinct when it comes to making friends or at least feel some kind of sympathy. But in relationships (love) we are able to fall in the trap of person we do not like, we would not choose as our friend. I am sure you have experienced that feeling of watching someone super annoying in your surrounding, someone completely different than you, someone arrogant, asshole, selfish and yet with such a charm that you feel super attracted to him/her and feel possessed with thinking about this person. And you want this person even more when he/she is absolutely unreachable for you.
Funny, isn’t it?
What happened to our intuition then?
I think at those moments we get clear evidence of our animal basis…we just want to reproduce with some alpha-strong leader character and that’s it, because we are aware, we cannot stand him close for too long. Because once we catch his/her eye and we feel secure about having all the attention, this person will lose all that charm for us…and then what will be left…only someone, who you would not like even as a friend.
Think about it next time when wanting to tame another unicorn! Tamed unicorn=pretty horse with speciaaaaaaaal requirements!
I told you in my first post that I would like to write things as they are. I think, you would appreciate to hear first little bit about my life to be able to say whether my thoughts are correct or not.
I mean, since this blog should be focused on relationships between people I should mention that I have one younger sister and younger half brother. We have amazing and very close relationship together. Our parents raised us the way to trust and rely on each other. They kept saying anytime we had some fight that one day my siblings can be the only person here for me.
It didn’t take much longer when I realized this truth on my own and I am very thankful for this to my parents. Basically, people around you are changing all the time. As you grow older, your friends are moving to new places, living with people you don’t know and having their own lives. At some point you are getting separated from all of those who grew up with you and it’s your turn to take that step into unknown future.
Soon, you find yourself overwhelmed by that big world full of people and you learn how to build more your intuition, when it comes to trust to other people or share of some sympathies. You build around you new circle of people and let them influence you, but in case some other “violent/unexpected” changes occur in your life, you realize that 90% of those people will not stick close to you anymore…you will see that only a few of precious friends from childhood will be there for you always and no matter how often you see each other, or that your siblings are the ones who do not need any explanations or long time to think. They will always help you and will be there no matter what you have done.
Hello everyone out there in the jungle of internet!
I have decided to start my own little blog about women’s perception/my perception of the world and the problem solving differences between men and women. The reason behind that is the common misunderstanding between different genders. I am not perfect and to be honest my reactions are many times wrong ones, but I would like to find some buddies here, who would like to become my friends and discuss with me the issues of difficult human communication.
I would say that our life hangs only on socializing in every aspect and even the most solitary person cannot live on this planet without certain interaction with other people. We need relationships, we need other living creatures, we need to give and to receive something as the exchange. These are the laws of living.
I hope you will be able to see yourself in some of my posts or be able to give me advice regarding some troublesome situations. I want to write things honestly as they are and as I feel…